My profile pic is from Nov. 2021 I'm a top who enjoys control but not at the expense of enjoyment. I have a solid grip and love giving spankings and floggings. Impact play! That's the term I was looking for, I like impact play. I can talk dirty, be mean, and will often tease to the point of madness. I also have a firm hand and enjoy using it. Like, a literal firm hand, gripping and moving someone around. I am happily married and ethically non-monogamous. I am a fan of "I" statements. I cross-dressed for quite some time. It was naughty, awesome fun but found I prefer being in boy-mode with dressed gurls.